Welcome to Power & Pleasure: The Female Orgasm — The Myth, The Legend, and the Non-sense Your Guy Friends Keep Repeating
🌀 Orientation & Ground Rules
Before we dive headfirst into the science, the stories, the history, and the orgasmic truths you never got in sex ed, let’s take a breath and get a few things clear.
This post is your entry point, your grounding space, your consent conversation. Think of it as your guided inhale before the deep, full-body exhale.
✨ What This Series Is
This series is for the curious, the frustrated, the cautious, the hungry, and the “Am I the only one?” crowd. It’s for the late bloomers, the high-functioning skeptics, the clinical overthinkers, and the silent survivors. Whether you're confident in your sexual agency or still struggling to name your parts without flinching—you belong here.
Power & Pleasure is a no-shame, no-stigma, pleasure-positive, evidence-based, and justice-oriented deep dive into the female orgasm. This isn't just about climax—it's about context, culture, control, and connection.
We’ll talk:
External and internal anatomy beyond the vulva-vagina binary
The neuroscience of orgasm: what's happening in your brain, nervous system, and endocrine pathways when you climax
Systemic barriers: shame, racial disparities, heteronormativity, medical gaslighting, and purity culture
Tools and techniques: from breathwork to vibrators, erotic blueprints, pelvic floor mapping, and sensory literacy
Clinical blocks: pain, trauma, birth injuries, hormone shifts, pelvic floor dysfunction, and medications
The orgasm gap and what it says about power, performance scripts, and patriarchal priorities
This is about reclaiming something that was always yours—but likely stolen, dismissed, medicalized, or distorted along the way. It’s about unlearning silence. About reframing what counts. About trusting your body again—or for the first time.
Because pleasure is not a luxury. It’s not a reward for thinness, marriage, high libido, or "doing it right."
Pleasure is power.
Orgasm is literacy.
And knowing your body is a political act.
🧠 What This Series Isn’t
This is not medical advice. It’s not therapy. It’s not a substitute for personalized clinical care. It’s not a guarantee that you’ll have an orgasm by the end—but it might help you figure out why you haven’t.
While I’m a licensed physician, this space is purely educational. I am not your doctor, and reading these posts does not create a medical relationship—and that’s intentional. That’s what boundaries are for.
That said, we’re building toward something more. Soon, you’ll be able to work with me directly through Diosa Ara’s Sexual Health offerings, which will include:
🩺 Clinical Care (Coming Soon) → For those who want direct, licensed medical evaluation and treatment related to sexual health, function, and pelvic wellness.
🗣️ Clinical Counseling (Coming Soon) → For people who want medically-informed, trauma-conscious support and conversation, outside of a formal doctor–patient relationship.
✨ Coaching (Coming Soon) → For those seeking pleasure-focused, non-clinical guidance—whether you're navigating shame, rebuilding body trust, or learning what feels good without pathologizing it.
If you want to be the first to know when these services launch—or if you’re curious whether one of them might be right for you—sign up here.
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🔍 Translation? This series is not a replacement for care. But it is part of a broader care revolution—one that centers consent, pleasure, and full-bodied personhood. This is about building informed desire, grounded curiosity, and the confidence to ask better questions in every room you enter.
Transparency is sexy. Consent is everything. Liberation starts with language.
💬 Let’s Kick Things Off with a Poll
What’s the first word that comes to mind when you hear the word orgasm? Answer in the comments or click the button below to answer in an anonymous poll. Whatever you feel comfortable with works for us.
Don’t overthink it. Don’t sanitize it. Don’t make it cute. This isn’t a test.
Drop the realest word that comes up—whatever it is.
Joyful, angry, disappointed, curious, frustrated, emotional, tender, powerful, confused, neutral. Maybe even: "never."
📌 Drop your word in the comments.
We’ll use your responses to build a live word cloud that will be featured in Part 1 of the series.
Spoiler: it’s always a brilliant, messy, moving mix of "release," "confusion," "meh," "YES," and "finally."
Your words matter. And you don’t have to explain them. Let’s start this conversation on your terms.
🧨 Why This Series Matters Right Now
We’re living in a moment where sexual agency is being legislated, erased, and actively weaponized. From abortion bans to curriculum censorship, from transphobic health policies to the rollback of reproductive rights, the body has never just been biology—it’s always been political real estate.
But the absence of sexual autonomy doesn’t just shape policy. It shapes presidency. It shapes culture. It’s how we ended up with a convicted rapist in the White House—a man with a 20-year documented friendship with a known child sex trafficker. It feels surreal to type that sentence and not be drafting one of my dystopian fiction pieces. But here we are.
When girls aren’t taught that their body belongs to them… When women aren’t given the tools to name pleasure, pain, or power… When we pretend sexuality is optional, shameful, or linear… We create the perfect breeding ground for violence, silence, and systemic control.
Orgasm isn’t a distraction from that reality. It’s a direct confrontation of it.
To reclaim sexual agency is to disrupt systems that depend on your submission.
This series is about more than pleasure—it’s about your voice, your worth, your safety, and your future.
🗓 What to Expect
Over the next several weeks, we’ll explore:
What orgasms feel like—not just what they do to your genitals
Why so many women don’t have them—and why it’s not your fault
How shame, trauma, religion, and patriarchy rewired your pleasure map
How to reconnect with your orgasm—on your own terms, in your own timing
We’ll also cover:
Medical barriers like SSRIs, birth trauma, menopause, and pelvic injuries
Psychological blocks like performance anxiety, dissociation, internalized shame, and attachment wounds
Tools, toys, and tech: what works, what doesn’t, how to choose, and what no one tells you about using them for the first time
The orgasm gap: how it reflects societal inequity, and what it means when your pleasure isn’t prioritized
Intersectionality: how race, queerness, trans identity, disability, and cultural upbringing shape access to pleasure
Emotional safety and erotic trust: why communication, attunement, and nervous system regulation matter as much as technique
Every post is rooted in scientific research, clinical experience, cultural critique, and a deep respect for your lived story. You won’t find sensationalism here. You will find options. Language. Reframing. Relief.
📅 New entries drop weekly.
👁️ Some will make you think. Some might make you cry. Some might finally name what you never had words for.
And yes—some might help you feel what all the hype is about.
📣 Save the series. Share it with your crew. Forward it to someone who needed to hear this in their 20s, 30s, 50s.
Come as you are.
Let’s deconstruct the myth, reclaim the science, and put pleasure back where it belongs—in your hands.